Do you ask questions? I once spent a lunch with someone who talked about themselves the entire time, never asking me one question. Actually, I have spent many a lunch or coffee with someone who doesn’t ask questions during our time together. These one-sided conversations are draining and not an experience that I want to repeat. Asking questions can be a great way to build a relationship with someone. Asking questions shows you’re interested in knowing more about what the person is saying. All relationships are based on trust, and asking questions can help build that trust. Jesus was a phenomenal question asker. Look at some of his most profound questions:
What are you looking for?
What do you want?
Who do you say that I am?
What do you want me to do for you?
Where are your accusers?
Would you like to get well?
Jesus knew the answers to these questions, yet he asked them anyway…why? Because Jesus knew how relationships worked, and he knew that asking great questions builds healthy relationships. The next time you’re at lunch or dinner with someone, ask questions and then listen…really listen to their response. The art of asking great questions is in listening then responding with a question that draws the conversation into more meaningful dialogue. I encourage you to give it a try and see if it doesn’t change the way you interact with people.
Grace & Peace,